Courtesy at Home

Politeness properly understood, such as respect – spiritual not formal – and proper treatment – sincere not apparent – that is due to all beings and creatures around us, is one of the main obligations of every Muslim and should be of every human being.
One of our sages when asked what the way was used to answer, “Love of the Creator and courtesy to creation” and it is very common to hear the people of knowledge among us that the way is all the, courtesy.
This courtesy, which is due everywhere and to all beings, is especially important in the home with family, visitors, and neighbors.
Allah has said in His Noble Qur’an:

Worship Allah and do not associate anything with Him.
And behave well with your parents, with your relatives, with your fathers, with your fathers, with your fathers, with your fathers, with your fathers, with your fathers, and with your fathers, and with your servants.
Allah does not love the conceited and boastful.

And the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

The best of you is the best with his family, and I am the best of us with his family.

Nowadays, more and more voices are being raised to express their concern about the deterioration in family relationships or even the lack of relationships within homes, and they point to it as the cause of the deterioration of social relationships on the street and the increase in crime, especially among children.
Judges and educators are increasingly denouncing the abandonment by parents of their children’s role as educators and of responsibility for their behaviour.
This is due on the one hand to a misunderstanding of the so-called rights of democratic and constitutional societies by which many parents, for fear of falling into politically incorrect authoritarianism, prefer and try to be friends with their children rather than parents and leave them – as the brilliant juvenile judge of Granada said – orphans. and by which many children confuse freedom with debauchery and believe they have the right to do what they want and are willing to denounce their parents and educators at the slightest attempt to correct their behavior; and on the other hand to the fact that families and houses are increasingly smaller and closed and in them there is practically a total absence of witnesses who can see and put a stop to the deterioration of family relationships, which did not happen or at least was more difficult to happen when more than two generations lived together in the houses and the presence of grandparents, uncles, brothers-in-law, cousins and neighbors was practically constant.
As Muslims we have received a very complete and detailed science of how to behave with each being in creation that we call adab (courtesy) and we must learn, practice and teach it, because only with it will we be safe and so will our environment near and far.
As Muslims we must make an effort to make our houses open and if we cannot make them large and very inhabited, at least make them frequently visited by grandparents, siblings, uncles, cousins, brothers-in-law, friends, neighbors, travelers, collaborators, orphans, needy…
And our children and our grandchildren may see in them all kinds of sincere and heartfelt courteous relationships and may they learn and pass them on to their children and grandchildren, keeping themselves safe and keeping their environment safe.
Mohammad del Pozo, Logroño.
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